Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  you up?
OneLesbo: 

yes – barelyBut I need to do the dishes (dishwasher is broken) and take out the trash – I’m trying to

 

 

suck up to lovely spouse . . . and express gratitude (that’s for you Katie)
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  ok ..i’ll check with you later
OneLesbo:  anything up
OneLesbo:  I didn’t mean to run you away
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  hmm a bit
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  we can talk later
OneLesbo:  well, I’d love to avoid the dishes and the trash if you’re in the mood
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  sure
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  Lori feels like she needs to move back home..her parents are failing…
OneLesbo:  where do they live?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  Indiana..she doesn’t want to move there..but somewhere in the east where it would be a short jaunt..chicago for instance
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  she is back visiting..called me crying today
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  sad
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I understand though
OneLesbo:  I can totally understand.  I had many of those days.  Does she have siblings? 
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  yes
OneLesbo:  where are they
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  Indiana
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  but they are really lame
OneLesbo:  Well, as you know – parents getting older – not fun
OneLesbo:  getting older .  .  . not fun
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I know..just tough
OneLesbo:  I finally had to decide to live my life – I begged my mother to come live with us numerous times
OneLesbo:  when she wouldn’t – I had to do what was best for me, Lovely Spouse and Our son
OneLesbo:  when she broke her hip I stayed there in rehab with her – almost night and day for almost a month
OneLesbo:  but it can go on so long – and you can’t just put your life on hold while it happens
OneLesbo:  do you think there are other motivating factors for her thoughts about moving?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I know you did..Lori ‘s folks don’t even call her but she is the only functional family member…oh she hates her job here
OneLesbo:  If she wanted to move to the same town as them – or within driving distance – I
But the fact that she’d still have to fly there to see them . . . what do you think . . .
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  we get along well..no fighting at all..but she loves to watch football,basketball,tennis golf and I like to be outside
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  well from HERE it is so hard to get anywhere…takes a whole day to get to the midwest or back east
OneLesbo:  that’s true
OneLesbo:  So has she said what the plan would be for the two of you? 
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  we get a long but she never really learned how to show love for someone..I am too needy for her..
OneLesbo:  Yes, there is a certain level of constant adoration required, isn’t there 🙂
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I think the plan was for her to pass the bar exam which has happened
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  i like mutual admiration..respect
OneLesbo:  oops – I just spelled it wrong 🙂  I certainly meant admiration – 
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  anyway..she really is a good person and she is struggling
OneLesbo:  so, how did you two leave it
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  oh an you will be happy to know I saw Carie at gay pride..she looked old,haggard and had tattoes on he forearms
OneLesbo:  tattoos? 
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I just listened to her..I knew she was already struggling
OneLesbo:  okay – sorry but I have to know – what were the images on the arms?
OneLesbo:  palm trees with naked women – like a sailor would have?
OneLesbo:  I hope my jokes are cheering you up
OneLesbo:  I don’t want to make light of Lori’s situation
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  big old colored tattoes ..kind of like mike wrought iron fence around the dog run..flear d lee..how ever you spell that
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  my not mike
OneLesbo:  nice description – I totally get it . . . well, I don’t get it but I do understand how it would look
OneLesbo:  well, that’s certainly . . . odd
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  in sort of a circular fashion…and she was arm in arm with another exe of mine Asia…
OneLesbo:  oh my
OneLesbo:  I don’t remember Asia – who is she
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  well I never went all the way so to speak with Asia
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  remember the chick whom I told …you look so beautiful tonight?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  and she said…i am so fucking tired of people telling me that, I wish you’d stop?
OneLesbo:  No I don’t remember but I love the story
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  It was my birthday..we were in laguna beach
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I said Asia…you are not that beautiful.
OneLesbo:  I’m laughing
OneLesbo:  guess she got her wish
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  kinda ended the romance.
OneLesbo:  so, nice detour – what are you going to do about Lori?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  so my friend Sidney has been out her visiting and she said they both looked like hell..Asia was not attractive at all( I truly did not even recognize her)
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I told Lori I understand and she just needs to decide
OneLesbo:  Remind me who Sidney is
OneLesbo:  so would the two of you (Lori and you – of course) still be a couple?  exclusive monogomy ?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I went out with Sidney 2-3 times..big fat girl
OneLesbo:  I remembered fat but can’t remember much else
OneLesbo:  where does she live
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  Now in Richmond VA
OneLesbo:  “big fat girl”  your adjectives sound like my Aunt Lizzie talking
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I know ..good eatin
OneLesbo:  okay – who was the one with the foot thing – the smaller one – I’m putting them together in one round mound of mess
OneLesbo:  the other one from VA
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:   Allison..she is coming out next week
OneLesbo:  of course she is  🙂
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  gonna get married in Big Sur
OneLesbo:  really?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  yes
OneLesbo:  what’s that story
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  they fly in to San Jose then get married and drive up here.
OneLesbo:  so are you the flower girl, or what?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  it’s a long story
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  now I am honeymoon
OneLesbo:  Yeah, that’s what I was thinking
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  plus they are bringing a friend
OneLesbo:  honey, let’s get married and spend our honeymoon with an old girlfriend
OneLesbo:  she has great feet and toes
OneLesbo:  you’re gonna love her
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  who the friend?
OneLesbo:  no – you
aren’t you the honeymoon destination?
OneLesbo:  So is Lori going to miss out on this fun?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  well it is just a formality kind of thing
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  Lori will be here while they are here
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I think
OneLesbo:  marriage is a sacrament
OneLesbo:  are you wondering if I’m serious?
OneLesbo:  I’m not
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  she may just decide to stay with her best friend multi millionaire ex in LA
OneLesbo:  oh yes – marriage – did you and Lori talk about that
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  we;; they are going to do civil ceremony then have a regualr marriage with a minister in georgia
OneLesbo:  geez, such a spot for all of those lesbians living together who . . . . really just aren’t that sure . . .
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  Lori said she did not believe in gay marriage…Lori is as close to a fundamentalist christian as a lesbain can be
OneLesbo:  are you making that up?
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  no
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  she went to one of those places for a year where they convert you…
OneLesbo:  I erased what I was going to type
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  actually lived in a home
OneLesbo:  wish lesbians could open those places for straight women – I could make a million in those programs, recruiting women to become ex-straights
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  the minute she got there she found a woman
OneLesbo:  I’m sure – that’s what they do – put you in a home together – – oh that will cure a bunch of lesbos . . . what a deal – you don’t even have to go out on one date before you live together – yee haw
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  llaughing but not funny
OneLesbo:  You had never revealed this little tid bit to me about Lori
OneLesbo:  because i would have yelled
OneLesbo:  run Forest run
OneLesbo:  so Lori still doesn’t “believe in” marriage between two people of the same gender? 
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  well we never really talk so how could I
OneLesbo:  Kinda like Our son, he’s not sure he believes in the Tooth Fairy
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  she might believe in a legal union
OneLesbo:  Michael at school told him that his dad is the Tooth Fairy, I said, “Mr. Johnson – geez I never pictured the Tooth Fairy looking like that!”
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  you know I have a bit of the same thing as her
OneLesbo:  well, that’s because you’ve never been in a long-term healthy relationship . . . in my opinion – well, except for a short time that I recall quite well 🙂
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  not sure I get the tooth fairy analogy
OneLesbo:  she doesn’t “believe in ” gay marriage
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  well we have been together for 4 years
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  it has been healthier than anything I have  ever experienced
OneLesbo:  ouch
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  hey lived together day to day…she has been here with my folks..my Dad dying..it hasn’t been a date
OneLesbo:  true
OneLesbo:  how is your mother by the way
OneLesbo:  anytime I swim in cold water I think if her
OneLesbo:  her graceful dives
OneLesbo:  beautiful stroke in the water
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  we both have some preconceived faith things that are in common
OneLesbo:  well, Lovely Spouse is an ex-Catholic atheist who is not shy about telling people
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  thank you..she doesn’t dive..but she swims everyday..but she no longer has her swimming partner
OneLesbo:  your mother is so sweet
OneLesbo:  and beautiful
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  well I thought about being a minister as you may recall..
OneLesbo:  we should all be so lucky to look like her
OneLesbo:  yes, I recall
OneLesbo:  do you still go to the same churchdo you still go to the same church
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  You probably need to accept I have grown up just as you have..
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  my IM’s don’t seem to be going to you
OneLesbo:  and at least one of mine went 2 times
OneLesbo:  strange
OneLesbo:  the conversation does seem to be more disjointed that even the usual IM conversation – usually we only have two subjects going at once – I now believe we have 4
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  she is an atheist?
OneLesbo:  yes she is an atheist
OneLesbo:  and quick to say it
OneLesbo:  not agnostic
OneLesbo:  atheist
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  so are you an athiest?
OneLesbo:  no, I wouldn’t say that
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  or however you spell it
OneLesbo:  I’m a fence sitting agnostic skeptical believer of Jesus
OneLesbo:  amen
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I’ll pray for you
OneLesbo:  that made me giggle – was it supposed to?
OneLesbo:  Our son once asked me, “Mommy, in our family do we believe in God?”
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  Lori and I both have a deep personal faith..we visit different churches..it ws supposed to make you gigle..I hope you told him yes
OneLesbo:  no – that’s not what I told him
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  what did you tell him
OneLesbo:  I said that to be in our family you’re not required to believe in God
OneLesbo:  Mom does not believe in God
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  that’s ok
OneLesbo:  he seemed okay with it
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  everyone needs to come to their own faith but they should be exposed to higher teachings
OneLesbo:  exactly
OneLesbo:  that’s what he and I discussed
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  not sure how many buddhist temples are in the Heartland of America
OneLesbo:  that we would help him find out about different beliefs and then we’d trust him when he’s a grown up to have his own beliefs
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  have one here right next to the house
OneLesbo:  you people in California
OneLesbo:  So, I need to go – we’re going on a cruise and fly out for Miami on Friday
OneLesbo:  Lovely Spouse and I haven’t argued for 2 days
OneLesbo:  don’t want to blow it just before the trip
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  well in my opinion not that it means one thing…I would take him to some houses of religion
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  good for you..I will pray for you again
OneLesbo:  good – I can use lots of prayers – pray that Lovely Spouse and I don’t kill each other
OneLesbo:  if you see on the news that a woman was lost at sea . . .
OneLesbo:  be sure and listen for names
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  I willpray for you nightly
OneLesbo:  okay – hope it all works out for Lori
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  you’ll be fine
OneLesbo:  blessings to you – goodnight
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  she will move back home..it wll be fine…
OneLesbo:  bye
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee:  bye
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee signed off at 11:15 P.M.
Ex-GF/SurgeonHottiee is offline and will receive your IMs when signing back in.

Comments
  1. Wow! Life is the most amazing kaleidoscope of sights and sounds and feelings and ideas…. I’m so thrilled to be here. I, for one, LOVE growing older.

    What are you feeling grateful for tonight?

    Kisses, Katie

  2. 2lesbosgoinatit says:

    Last night? that the yard waste bag didn’t break as I was carrying it to the street; that she asked me to go on a walk with her; that we went yet another day without a fight; that I made it to bed without eating another cookie; that our son is not sleeping in the bed with us tonight; that she didn’t get on my ass too bad for not having my clothes sorted for the cruise; and the usual . . . we asked our son what he was thankful for . . . he said “everything,” when I asked him to give me the details he said, “Mommy, there is so much it would take me a week to explain.”

  3. I love your son! Follow his lead.

    Have a fabulous cruise.

    XO, Katie

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