One Lesbo Mom on Gay & Lesbian Families and Talking About Uncomfortable Things

Posted: August 1, 2008 in Lesbian, lesbians
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1.  I’m not part of a “gay family” or “lesbian family.”   We’re a family that just happens to have two moms.

2.  I used to be sympathetic to those parents who weren’t ready to tell their kids about gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered individuals and their children.   I’ve now been a parent for over 6 years and it’s really no big deal.  I was reluctant to tell my son about these things but I’ve realized that I should be able to and can talk to my son about anything. 

True information does not hurt kids.  It only helps prepare them for the world.  

Here are some of the topics that I’ve dreaded but that turned out to be no big deals:  what’s a tampon, how does the sperm get from the testicles into the woman, what’s a bear, transexuals, sex change surgery, a man having a baby, why I have to “adopt” him in another state, why we had a civil union in another state, racial discrimination and one of the hardest subjects so far – toy recalls.   That was tough.   My little one loved his Red Lego Monster Truck that he named Chitty.  However, it was recalled.   After days of adorable crying, we kept Chitty.  

3.  How and when do I explain to my son that some people think that his mom and I are going to hell?  My son knows, in a general way, that some people might not know a family like ours and that one day someone could make fun of him about it.   However, we’ve never really explained the deeply rooted bias against LGBT people the way that we’ve gone in depth about racial discrimination.   He was so hurt and shocked when we told him that some people have “not been nice” to people of other races.   He looked as if his ever present joy had just been knocked out of him and was down for the count.   What will his face look like, and what will he dream of, if and when I tell him about the depth of bias against Mom and Mommy?

Back to number 2.  I have no sympathy for those dumb asses, they should stay in the closet.  In fact, I’d love to keep biased asses out of our schools and out of public sight so that my son can keep his joy intact forever.

Added:  

I just read an article by one of those idiots, “Exclusive: Indoctrination in Public Schools Leads to Rise in Home Schooling.”  

You know what I say in response to the title of her article:   good, I hope they all stay home so that my son will never be exposed to them. 

Comments
  1. A Straight Mother says:

    Well said.

  2. Marcy says:

    I admire the way you have built your family and have handled your son within the context of a home with two mommies. Its easier said than done.

  3. 2lesbosgoinatit says:

    Thanks. Let’s just hope that by the time he starts searching the Internet that: 1) We haven’t revealed so much about our lives that he recognizes his family and/or 2) He’ll totally understand how stupid we all were playing with this new toy the Internets.

    PS – son, most of this crap is made up

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